It’s Valentine’s Day! Chocolates, Roses, Romance and Love!
In the words of Forrest Gump, “Life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you’re gonna get”. When you get cancer or are the partner of someone with cancer, life may not be all roses for you. Chemotherapy and medications often impacts your sense of taste and smell, leaving roses and chocolates wiped off your list of desires (for now).
What about romance? We get it, you classify your last ‘hot date’ as the appointment where your whole body experienced a wave of heat when the radiologist pumped contrast into your veins as you endured a CT scan! Living with cancer and a rigorous schedule of appointments and treatments can be all consuming and exhausting.
So that leaves LOVE. You and your partner work hard at enduring treatment and getting better. Cancer may sometimes feel as exhausting as boot camp, which often means little time or energy to reflect on your relationship. Perhaps this Valentine’s Day, you can create some undistracted moments with a focus on your relationship. Who are you as partners, outside of the cancer experience? How has it changed your relationship? Open communication about these changes may help maintain intimacy, bringing in more balance in spite of the impacts cancer.
If you feel loved by someone – tell them!
Go gently – Be love